Why Marriage is Tougher Than Ever

Getting married is not hard for some people, but staying married — well, that’s a different story. In the past decade, society has changed. We’re busier than ever. We live in the era of social media, and there are more distractions than ever. Media is convincing you that unhealthy relationships are the norm.

If you’re trying to improve your marriage, good for you. But it won’t be easy. There are so many things getting in the way of your relationship. Here’s a look at some of them.

Social Media

Multiple apps are trying to distract you from your relationship. They want your attention. They want to show you attractive pictures of other people. Unfortunately social media is winning the battle. Studies show a link between social media use and decreased marriage quality.

Digital Devices

Nowadays, you have to compete with phones, computers, and other devices for your partner’s attention. Their electronic devices are constantly alerting them to texts, emails, and possibly job opportunities. Studies show that 40% of adults are bothered by how much time their partner spends on their phone.

Song Lyrics

The songs you play may not be as romantic as you thought. Many song lyrics normalize unhealthy attachments. Studies show that 86% of popular recent songs about relationships depict insecure attachments, such as jealousy, objectifying partners, and talking about unhealthy relationships.

News and Crises

It seems as though the news has nothing but negativity, from war to crime to murders to diseases. People consume news now more than ever, and this is taking its toll on mental health.  Studies show that many people are feeling so emotionally overwhelmed that they struggle to make basic decisions. This is affecting a person’s ability to be a good partner, which is causing marriages to fail.

Mental Health Crisis

Mental health was something that was not talked about much decades ago. Nowadays, it seems as though just about everyone is having problems with mental health and substance abuse but the actual statistics are 25%, or 1 in 4 adults. Not many people get treatment, leading to marital issues and divorce.

Working Too Much

Work often spills over into family time, especially now that many of us work from home. The traditional 9-5 schedule has been replaced with 5-9 (a.m. to p.m.). The lines are now blurred. Many workers feel they need to be available 24/7. These higher workloads lead to decreased marital satisfaction, even in cases where a person said their partner’s strong work ethic was attractive early on.

Seek Legal Help

Marriage is not as easy as it used to be. Changes in culture and distractions make it hard to focus on our partners and have healthy relationships.

Nowadays, staying in love is a gamble. If the odds are against you, it may be time to call it quits.  Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. will be there for you during your divorce. Our firm provides compassionate, dedicated and effective representation. Fill out the online form or call 954-764-4330 to schedule a consultation.

Source:
psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/202401/10-reasons-marriage-has-grown-tougher-over-the-past