Tips to Avoid Divorce

When people think of marriages ending, their minds tend to turn to worst-case scenarios such as infidelity or major financial issues. However, that is not always the case. In most cases, it’s not that dramatic. The couple simply grows apart. They disconnect little by little along the way, until after 15 or 20 years or so, the couple realizes they have nothing in common anymore.

Marriages take a lot of work. If yours is struggling, you may be considering divorce. Sometimes that’s the best option, but before you call a lawyer, here are some things you should try to revive your relationship.

Figure Out What You Need

A lot of marriages struggle because neither party knows what they want or if they do, they don’t know how to tell their spouse. Major life events, such as having a baby, losing a job, or experiencing a death in the family can really throw off a couple’s relationship. When dealing with such emotions, they focus less on the marriage. This is normal, but it’s important to recognize the issue and discuss it with your spouse so you can arrive at a solution.

Express Your Love

Don’t be coldhearted. You married your spouse because you love them (we’re assuming), so be sure to take the time to show that love. This doesn’t necessarily mean sex. Hugs, kisses, phone calls, texts, gifts, and love letters all qualify. Don’t be focused on keeping score, but if you’re the one doing all the work, then it’s time to have a discussion.

Pay Attention

Remember when you were back in school and had to focus on the classwork and homework so you could pass the tests? Well, marriage is a huge test, and you need to always be paying attention. When your husband or wife is talking to you, you need to be listening. Put down your phone and stop watching TV long enough to show interest. Ask follow-up questions. Don’t just ignore what your partner is saying to you. They are trying to get your attention, so show interest in return by listening.

Change Your Ideas About Marriage

Marriage has evolved over time and the media does not always portray it so favorably. Many TV shows display the husband as an idiot, while the wife is often seen as a “ball and chain.” Hallmark movies may show marriage as a fairytale. None of these stereotypes are true. Marriage is not some wonderful, perfect event, but it’s not the horrific situation that some shows make it out to be either. Change your expectations. Expect to put in the work to make your marriage last. A happy marriage is better than a bitter divorce.

Seek Legal Help

Marriage is not easy. Once the honeymoon stage is over, it gets harder to keep the spark alive in a marriage. Couples tend to grow apart.

Nobody wants to think about divorce, but sometimes it’s the only option. Fort Lauderdale divorce lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. can help you handle your divorce and all related issues, including post-divorce matters. You don’t have to go through it alone. Fill out the online form or call 954-764-4330 to schedule a consultation.

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