Co-Parenting at Christmas: A Guide for Divorced Parents

Christmas: the most wonderful time of the year. Or so the media tells us. For many people, the holiday season is in fact fun and magical. For others, though, it can bring about anger, sadness, and bitterness.

This is especially true for divorced parents who cannot agree on child custody and visitation. The holidays just aren’t the same when the family is split up. Both parents want their children on Christmas and other holidays, but it’s just not possible.

By making your child a priority, you can make Christmas fun and memorable for everyone. Here’s how to make things work.

Be Flexible

Christmas doesn’t have to happen on December 24 or 25. Think outside the box and make plans to celebrate on a different day. For example, you can celebrate the day your kids get out of school for winter break or postpone Christmas until New Year’s Eve. This makes things easier on your kids so that they’re not so stressed out attending so many events at once.

Focus on Positive Communication

Sure, there may still be some anger and resentment from the divorce, but the holidays are not the time to be mad and negative toward each other. Focus on being positive. Be cordial to them and never badmouth them in front of the kids. It’ll be healthier for the kids. In fact, studies show that children adjust better to divorce when their parents are more cooperative.

Help Your Child With Emotions

Don’t make your child feel guilty when they’re with the other parent. Let them know it’s OK to express emotions. Be empathetic and validate their feelings. Remember that they’re feeling pain from the divorce as well. Help them navigate their emotions and be prepared to show compassion and support as they navigate Christmas without both parents.

Start New Traditions

DIvorce changes the whole dynamic of families and holidays, which is why parents are encouraged to create new traditions after a divorce. Don’t cling to the past. Start fresh with fun activities for the kids. You can still keep some favorite traditions but don’t feel as though everything has to stay the same. Do things that your child enjoys, whether it’s visiting friends, listening to music, attending a play or concert, or enjoying a favorite meal. Check out local activities in your area. Whatever you choose, focus on making fun memories. If you don’t have the kids for Christmas, visit family and friends. Watch a movie. Enjoy a meal. Take a bath. Take care of yourself.

Seek Legal Help

The holidays may be a happy time for many families, but for some, they can be stressful and confusing. It’s not uncommon for kids to be caught in custody and visitation battles during this time of year.

Fort Lauderdale child custody lawyer Edward J. Jennings, P.A. is here for you and will fight for your rights and your children in Florida child custody disputes. To schedule a consultation today by calling 954-764-4330 or filling out the online form.

Source:

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