Stop Living in the Past After Divorce

A divorce can be a difficult event to get past, especially if you were married for a long time.  If your spouse wanted a divorce, but you didn’t, you may feel unloved and lonely. You will likely feel a lot of negative emotions as you move on from a failed marriage.

A lot of people continue to live in the past for years after a divorce. They still have feelings for their ex-spouse and think they can work things out, even though the ex-spouse has already moved on. Some people are hurt by their ex and they refuse to forgive them.

To move on from a divorce, you need to let go of your feelings and anything else keeping you tied to your marriage. Here are some ways to stop living in the past. 

Release the Pain

Some people refuse to let go of the pain. They consider it part of their identity. They use it to get the sympathy of others. It can be scary to let go of the hurt feelings, but you need to if you want to move forward.

Forgive Your Ex-Spouse 

Your ex may have cheated on you or spent all your money. Maybe you felt a lot of bitterness because they never stepped up to be the spouse and parent that they should have been. Maybe they put you through hell with a gambling or substance addiction.

You may want to stay bitter forever, but what for? Your ex may never apologize for how they treated you, but that doesn’t mean you need to be angry for the rest of your life. By forgiving, you make peace with yourself. It’s not an easy thing to do, but you need to do it to move on.

Don’t Recreate the Same Situation

A lot of people move on from divorce and get into another bad relationship simply because they don’t want to be lonely. They are replicating the same thing they had in their marriage. You don’t want to do this. It can be scary to do something different, but you definitely don’t want to go back and do the same thing all over again. Change can be good. Spend some time thinking about what went wrong in your marriage and find ways to avoid the same fate in the future.

Don’t Isolate Yourself

It may feel safe to stay at home, away from the world, but all this does is keep you ridden with anxiety. You don’t get support from others and you miss out on experiences. So get out there and enjoy what life has to offer.

Seek Legal Help

Many people take a long time to move on after a divorce. They keep wanting to relive the past, which only delays your progress and keeps you stuck in a rut.

Move on after a divorce with help from Fort Lauderdale divorce attorney Edward J. Jennings, P.A. He has the resources to help you survive and thrive after a divorce. Schedule a consultation by filling out the online form or calling 954-764-4330.

Resource:

huffpost.com/entry/6-things-that-keep-you-from-moving-on_b_5155943